徒然草とデジャヴ

また、いかなるをりぞ、ただいま人の言ふことも、目に見ゆるものも、わが心のうちも、かかることのいつぞやありしかと覚えて、いつとは思ひいでねども、まさしくありし心地のするは、我ばかりかく思ふにや。(徒然草71段)

この部分は吉田兼好が自分の心に起こったデジャヴの現象の不思議さを、ありのままに述べた箇所です。
徒然草が編まれたのは鎌倉時代末期の1330年頃。
こんな昔から、現代人が体験するのと同じデジャヴ現象を、心理学など全くない当時の言葉を用いて描写しているというのは、とても珍しいことだと思います。
おそらく吉田兼好は自分の外に起こる出来事だけでなく、自分の内面に生起する不思議な現象にも、素直に驚き好奇心を持つ稀な人だったのだろうと思われます。

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On having a child /The Trauma of Parenthood – NYTimes.com

Parenthood takes its toll on your relationships as well. A 2009 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that the transition to parenthood is linked to reduced happiness in the marriage and more negative behavior during spousal conflict. Evidence also demonstrates that this transition is connected to substantial reductions in the size of a parent’s networks of family and friends.This research, which doesn’t even touch on the staggering financial cost of raising a child, provides clear evidence that for many people becoming a parent is one part blessing, one part trauma.Given the ideology of parenting, it’s not surprising that we typically blame biology for the experience of postpartum depression. But the circumstances parents face are often demonstrably miserable. The fact that postpartum depression rates are much higher among the poor than among the wealthy, who can purchase peace of mind through hired child care, supports the idea that the phenomenon is, in most cases, more circumstantial than biological. via The Trauma of Parenthood – NYTimes.com.

To have a child is like having another core in the mind of parents. The core means the center which one must feed essential care to keep it living. The first core we have is the core of oneself. We are now grown-ups, who can care their own core and also give care to the core of their partners. In addition to this, the second core, which means their child, enters their lives and it starts to require its share of care and attention unilaterally. The care and attention, both in quantitiy and quality, differs from one parent to another, mainly due to their social, psychological and financial abilities. So it is imaginable that some parents with few resorces find it difficult to cope with the situation of two cores to care. To have a child is not all about joy and happiness. It can reduce happiness and well-being of your life if not prepared enough socially, psychologically and financially.

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